When women are dating a guy, they usually feel like the guy has to be the one to chase her. She never texts him first. She's never the one to invite him out. It's not because you don't want to but because you believe the role of the woman. You believe he's going to have to chase you. The problem with that mentality is that it breeds contempt on the guy’s part.
He will say ‘You never text me first.’ What they may start doing is play games with you.
When a guy is learning how to talk to a girl and you never text him first, you never make him feel wanted. You believe that, as a woman, you're the one who has to be courted.
You never try to impress a guy. You never listen to him and see if you can give him a good surprise. You never try to fulfil his fantasy. You don't look for things that he enjoys and give it to him.
If you notice that he is always the one texting you, inviting you out, and paying for everything, you have to do the opposite from time to time. Take the role of the man. From time to time chase him, be the one that pays, be the one that controls things, be the one that texts him first.
It's all about having that symbiotic relationship. He's chasing causes you to like him more. It causes you to do good things for him.
You know you're committing this mistake if you are the one who never texts him first. You're the one who is always waiting for him to do everything. You never pay for anything. You have a lack of thought for the guy. You don't think about what you can do to make him like you.
If he doesn't text you for a few days, you act like it's no big deal. You don't say ’Hey, why haven't you been texting me? I miss you.'
Mix the strong independence with some dependence.
If you haven't heard from him for 5 days you can be like ‘Bitch, where are you?’ 'Where have you been?' 'I haven't heard from you?' 'What's up?’ He might immediately text too because he's been waiting for you to text him. He’ll then think ‘Yes, I have her.’
Then you back off. You let him be the one who chases you.
It's a game of tag and it's a fun game. You're not doing it to hurt each other. You're just having fun with emotions.
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