Have you ever been home all day and you just feel like there is a discomfort in your chest? A lot of times, when you feel the discomfort, what you do is try to find a distraction.
That discomfort drives you to do something to remove it away. When I was on the train to the city, I felt that discomfort. That discomfort drove me to find some distractions. Your intent is to untangle that discomfort from your chest.
The best thing to do when you feel that discomfort in your chest is to not do anything. Feel that knot. All you have to do is feel it. It's almost like you're massaging it with your awareness and compassion.
The more you try to untangle it, the more entangled it's going to become. What I learned is to do the opposite of what it's asking you. Feel as though that emotion is a child that you have compassion for. Feel as though that emotion is your child. How do you react when you see the child in pain?
What I did is I just sat down on the train and felt it. You just let it be there. Tell it to stay there.
What I learned from doing that is that it liberates you. Usually, the compulsion is to get away from that emotion. What I learned is that if you push it towards you, you're saying this is not how you’re supposed to be.
It's like a predator. If you don't run away from a predator, its instincts are not going to be activated to attack. Instead of running away, just stay there.
Do what you are supposed to do, but don't do it to feel better. Unconsciously what motivates our actions is pain related.
When you do any action, always observe the motivation for doing it. Is it pain or is it the action itself?
You can do something to relieve the pain, but don't do it to find yourself. Do it to feel better but don't do it to complete you.
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