What's Tinder going to teach you about spirituality? Well, you need to understand the wealth of knowledge that you can get in every situation.
Last year, I used to complain a lot because I sucked at Tinder. In the past week and a half, for some reason, I suddenly became amazing at Tinder.
I've been practicing patience when it comes to sex. When I'm with a girl, I began to take my time, but then there were some girls who are smoking hot. It's so difficult to be patient with them.
When I went out with one such girl, she sat really close to me. At first all I wanted was to talk to her. However, after noticing her body language that she liked me, I went for the kiss. I then asked her out to my place since her roommates are in her place.
I should have listened to what she said about wanting to savor me first without getting a taste of me. We should have called it a night. Anyway, we could always hang out some other time. I was pushing it.
The lesson you can learn from this is that you can have a strategy, but if you don't have your emotions in check, your emotions will control you and sabotage you.
As soon as I noticed that she wanted to kiss me, there was a part of me that wanted validation. There was a part of me that just wanted the kiss because she was smoking hot. I should have just allowed myself to let go of the desire.
There are two types of suffering that people experience. There’s suffering when you don't have something or when you want something.
I should have taken a step back and said no. A part of me said please don't do it. The needy part of me that just wanted sex was an emotion. An emotion wanted this.
Keep your plan. You know when you get into a relationship although you said that you weren't going to? The reason you get in is that you see something you want. You think that he could potentially be the one. You suddenly get attached without even knowing it.
A lot of times, we lose our plan. We go in with a plan and then we totally forget.
We forget the plan because we get emotional. Our emotions blind us. Our emotions make us stupid because we know what to do but we just don't do it.
I could have said no, but then again, what do you say when people ask if you want to win? You say yes.
She wanted it, but what she really wanted was the chase and the adventure. I made it too easy and too obvious. I didn't give her any uncertainty. I made it too straight to the point.
What am I showing you here? Motherfuckers f*** up too. My biggest problem is patience. When I'm swiping on Tinder and I get a message, I ask myself, ‘Am I accepting myself right now?’ ‘Am I preferring her validation over my own?’
As you swipe right or left to people, you want to notice the changes in perception. Robert Greene says that the biggest killer of seduction is impatience.
In my mind, she was sent to teach me a lesson - patience. Don't go for the instant gratification. See people as messengers of life. Situations are here to give you a message. You have to be the one to ask ‘How can I learn from this?’
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