We're going to be talking about how a lot of people hate themselves. They just don't know it. Whenever you feel lonely, what does it mean? It means that you need someone to keep you company. You need someone to make you feel whole.
When you are not lonely and then somebody leaves, how do you feel inside? It feels like you need somebody to make you feel whole.
When you're not lonely, how does it feel? It feels like you’re whole. When you feel lonely, you're saying 'I don't like myself.’ You're saying 'I need somebody to make me feel good.’ 'I can't do that on my own.'
Those are all forms of self-hatred. You say that you want to be alone. There's nothing wrong with that. You can be alone but it doesn't mean you’ll be lonely. If you're lonely it means that you're disconnected from the world.
Generally, we hate ourselves because we don't feel complete. We think that who we are is not enough.
You should always be asking yourself whenever you feel lonely ‘Am I accepting myself completely?’ If you're not accepting yourself completely then it means you need something to accept you. Notice it.
People who feel young, as they grow older, what's going to happen is the group that once accepted them pushes them away because they're older. They feel alienated. They feel like they're not part of the group so they hate themselves.
They then try to regain their youth. They tried to regain what they once lost. They're holding on to the thing they're losing inevitably.
You're saying that you don't like this part of yourself and you need to change it. Real happiness comes from acceptance. Accept the present moment.
Notice the parts that you hate about yourself. Don't try to change it. Just have compassion.
Whenever I felt sad, what I began doing is surround my sadness with compassion. I would ask ‘Am I accepting myself right now?’ If not, rather than doing something to make me feel good, I just observe the pain and embrace it.
You hold that pain and now you're not resisting it. You are becoming aware of the pain. You're just embracing it.
Whatever pain you feel, just be compassionate about it. Notice your environment and have compassion for your environment.
If you try it right now you'll notice what changes. Even if you don't want to be what you are right now, just have compassion for this moment.
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