When you're in a relationship with a guy and you want to make something happen, you need to create pain to some sort of degree. When you create pain, it puts you in a position where you are the only one who could relieve that pain - if it attacks his ego.
If he was somewhat invested in you and you show interest on another guy, he will see himself as a lower individual. This is because some other guy got his girl. In order to feel better, he's going to have to fight for you. He's going to have to seduce you again. He’ll start showing more interest.
Since he feels like he's losing you, he's going to be anxious. He starts to dress better and take you to better dates.
You're making a guy doubt himself and he’s thinking about what he's done to make you lose interest. It could be that your personality changed so you're acting a little meaner. You bailed on him or you broke up with him.
If you do this, it doesn't matter how much you hurt him. He is going to come back.
If you guys are already kind of attached and everything was good, that's when you should do this. It's going to surprise him and the shots that hurt the most are the kind where people are caught off guard.
When you throw people a curve ball, you show a characteristic that's different from what you project. You make them become a little bit more interested.
I'm going to teach this in the course about how to create instant attraction. This is going to be in The Psychological Game of Attraction.
There are two ways to approach a guy if you want to seduce him. There is an indirect route and a direct route. The indirect route is through friendship. The direct route is true showing interest in the beginning, but throwing shades of disinterest at the same time. You're sending mixed signals all in one motion.
There are many ways to do that and you could do it instantly. It can be very subtle like when a girl joked to me that she was a man. Then, after she convinced me, she said that she was just f****** with me. She was really a girl.
I thought that this b**** got me.
The way to do this is you lull them to sleep like a hypnotist. They see a pattern and then suddenly they get hypnotized by it. Suddenly, you go with something else.
Since they didn't expect that, it catches them off guard. When something surprises them, they get emotional. It changes their perception.
If you have good intentions, you give a guy a natural fun chase. It's like creating an obstacle course that's meant to be won.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.