A lot of times, we are very convinced that the cause of our problems is somebody who doesn't change. The reason why you’re miserable in your relationships is because they don’t change.
Understand this. Just because you're logically correct doesn't mean that you have to emotionally react to them.
Let's say that your husband smokes cigarettes. You take away his cigarettes because you want him to stop smoking. The reason you do that is because it breaks your heart to see your husband smoke cigarettes.
You're saying he’s ruining your marriage. If only he would change his behavior, you would stop being so all over him.
Notice what's going on. You're technically saying that in order for you to change, he has to change. You're being reactive.
Rather than reacting to their actions, why don't you not react.
When somebody makes you mad at work, you have two options. You can either ignore them or you can quit.
Most people decide to complain about their problems. Rather than taking responsibility, they ask the other person to do something. Instead of asking people to change their actions, change your reaction to them.
Stop trying to get points for being right.
Let’s say you're in a relationship where you're always fighting. It's not that he's making you mad, he is bringing out what's already inside of you.
Instead of reacting, see what he is doing. Make a decision without the reaction. If he does something, see if you can do something about it.
It's not just about knowing how much potential you have. It's also about knowing your limitations.
You'll be able to see if you can do anything about the situation.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.