Today, we'll be exposing another dating coach and his name is Richard La Ruina. I actually used to buy his materials and when I was younger I used to watch his PUA University and it was good at that time but thinking back at the material he put out, I think it wasn't that good.
I'd like to talk about this video where he talks about how to talk to women without having to run out of things to say. Let's see his take, his philosophy on dating and if it changed over the years and also my review about him.
The thing about pick up guys have wrong is they think they can make a woman fall in love with just their words. You don't make a woman fall in love with your words. You make her fall in love with your presence and your absence. Your presence has to come across not as a playful one but serious and focused--like a focused presence-- the strong presence and the willingness to walk away.
A lot of pick-up guys think that when a woman is not interested in the conversation, they have to change the topic and make her more interested. It does work in-game because sometimes women are shy but don't confuse that with you making them like you.
The long term effects of doing game are not bad but it puts guys in the mentality of doing and it gets guys to think that women are that simple where you just talk to them and make them like you. Guys, it's not how it works.
For me, the most optimal way if she's not interested in a conversation is I'm just going to pull away and not put that much effort. With pick up, you have to initiate it but the problem with that is don't confuse pick up with how you go on dates with women. When you're doing pick up, you want to know if she's interested but when you're in a date that means she's already interested so just pull back and chill out.