You got to lower your expectations with people and let them surprise you. Go all the way rock bottom when it comes to expectations and just assume that every guy will leave you and accept it. That way when they don't leave you, it's obvious that they like you.
You got to really believe that people will leave you and you should almost like expect it because then when they do leave you it won't hurt that much. It doesn't mean you don't love them but it just means there's a distance and you're not submerged where you don't have self-awareness.
The easier a guy is on the first date or if he impressed you, then that's when you should be careful. It's kind of funny because with the girls I ended up loving, I didn't feel any connection on the first date. I didn't even think about having a relationship with them but after awhile, it just developed--I ended up liking them.
Don't commit on the first date and assume that everything is an act. You have to think that way for you to have a realistic expectation.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.