Let's talk about 3 heart-melting words that make men fall for you. These are words that will potentially make him fall in love. Now, look, the truth is that when there's no connection or chemistry this will not work. You got to have some chemistry and if you have to ask me how does it look like when you and your man have chemistry--you don't have chemistry because it's undeniable. You don't need to ask me if you have chemistry with your man because you got to know yourself.
So this is the kind of thing, you know that moment in your past relationship that you wish you would have done some of the things that I talk about? This is for that kind of moment. If you were in the situation before where these could work, just rest assured that you're gonna find yourself in that situation again. So don't worry about.
Mind you, when I say "heart-melting", I'm not talking about him feeling good inside, to me, it's "I want you now" and it doesn't have to be a positive emotion.
The first word that you guys have to use from time to time is "I can't tonight" and I'm not talking about just sex, I'm talking about not hanging out with him tonight. This is when the guy wants to see you. You ladies, when you like the guy, you're always available for him and when you don't like the guy you're never available and that's why when you don't like the guy, they'll like you back.
If you keep being so "yes-sy" with you guy, what's gonna happen is that he's not gonna see you as a human being but as an object who's always saying yes just like a robot. By you, from time to time, cancelling dates on him, it automatically reminds him that you're not always gonna be there for him. That's why we take family members for granted, we think that they're always gonna be there until something in life reminds us that they're gonna leave one day--either they die, either they potentially almost go to jail or either they get sick--it reminds us of the impermanence of life.
With men, if you're always there showing him attention, always going out and always accepting the dates, you're gonna make him feel like you're always gonna be there and thus he doesn't feel like he needs to work for you. From time to time, cancel on a date and say "I can't tonight" and say you're hanging out with your friends. Make him feel like you have something above him and that will make him feel less appreciated and as a result, he'll want more of your appreciation and will do more things for you.
The second next one is "Yes, Yes, Yes & No". As I said, this relates to the other point. Saying yes to a guy and then saying no. When you give too much and you don't say no from time to time, the person is gonna have a hard time seeing you as a human being. The thing is when you like the guy, you wanna do so much for him so saying "no" makes him like you more. Establish a pattern of saying yes to some things and then a hard no. This is very similar to "I can't tonight". The "No" shows that you have boundaries and when you have boundaries, you automatically become more attractive and you automatically increase your value.
The third one is "I have something for you" or "I have a gift for you". Everybody loves gifts, right? To do this, he has to feel that you might be losing interest. You can't do this when you're showing a lot of interest because it's expected and it could potentially have a negative effect. Before you do this, have moments of coldness. Be a little cold, text a little less and don't call back. Have that distance and after that give him a gift then pull away a little bit more.
The problem with giving gifts is when you give gifts and you don't balance that gift with some coldness, he's gonna take you for granted. It's human nature for you to take someone that gives for granted that's why you got to balance it by giving and then backing away.
Unfortunately, you got to keep the person in that swing. It's just how it is and I wish it wasn't the case. This is what I observed and it's a common thing you see amongst all relationships. If you're always there if you always say yes and if you're giving gifts without creating space before and after, people will take you for granted and you're not gonna melt their hearts.
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