Most people's dating strategies are never really based on rational thinking but insecurities. I teach people tactics that are meant to show people's card ina way and show the person's real interest and true intentions but the problem with that is it comes at a risk. The way that people reveal to you their intention isn't through their words but their actions and their patience, they're gonna show their emotions through their actions. There's a risk that when you do get their reaction, it's a sign that they don't like you and it's possibly permanent.
It's kind of intuitive for the most part if somebody ends it with you and they want to come back--the strategy that I teach is to not take them back and make them pay up a price for being the one who broke up with you. There's a good possibility that they're not gonna pay the price and so you rather take the little scraps that they give you because you're just so desperate--and that's a reflection of how you feel about yourself.
You're looking for that potion that doesn't exist in yourself. What it tends to do is make the person lose interest and not respect you. Now, you don't think about that because you're looking at the situation through the lenses of your need and emotions. You're failing to realize the consequences of your actions. Whenever you get emotional, you see the world through a fog of emotions.
I give people these strategies and they attempt it but they only use the strategies within the proximity of their comfort and it never really works because it's based on insecurity. Even if you do apply it, you don't have the patience to keep the frame. Sometimes, you just wait a little bit longer but it doesn't matter because when you truly apply what I teach, you got to be able to control your emotions and just trust the process.
Sometimes trusting the process is also accepting some outcomes you don't want but you got to realize that the outcome is actually good for you.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course... click here.