How to Pull Away when He Acts Cold
So this video tells you about the proper way to deal when your man pulls away.
To start off, this is a very simple strategy and I gave it a name so that that concept could be in your head all the time. This is what I like to call “Mirror and Exaggerate”. A lot of times people pull away to test your strength, sometimes we as men pull away to see how much you like us. Its as simple as if he doesn’t talk to you for a week you don’t talk to him for a week but the difference is that we are exaggerating it so that means he doesn’t talk to you for a week then you don’t talk to him for two weeks and that means if he takes 10 hours to respond you take a whole day to respond, that means if he’s cold over phone call then you become the goddamn Tundra. It is like giving him a taste of his own medicine. Why? Because a lot of times people are bluffing, a lot of times they’re hoping that the strategy works and a lot of times they don’t have the patience to wait.
Second is “do not ask your friends what to do”, because they will always tell you what you want to hear. Your friends see you being sad and depressed at the fact that that guy doesn’t like you so they want to see you happy so they tell you to text them and there’s nothing wrong with that sometimes it works but deep down they lose a little respect for you, so that’s a way to preserve your power. Third is “making him come to you”. Now what might happen is that you might lose interest in him. This has worked for me and the hardest part with this is actually following through – that is really the hardest part because if you really like the person, you’re gonna feel very anxious inside and the way to deal with that kind of anxiety for whenever you’re
pulling away from a guy these are some of the things you could do. The fourth tip is to “Work out or Meditate”. Lift the weights, put on all of that emotion and push it towards working out. I’ll teach you meditation on how to deal with your emotional distress with your sadness that comes from dating.
My fifth tip is “Be around people, Help them!” You can and do volunteer help, you can give money to a homeless person. Selfless acts make you feel good. When you know an act of kindness can make others happy it can make you happy too. Human connection helps you deal with the sadness.
Last on my list is to “Go back and pull away again”, for me this is the best strategy but if your man doesn’t react to this then it’s either he doesn’t really like you or he just have too much pride.
This takes a lot of emotional maturity to control yourself. It is a way for you to grow if you are able to deal with this kind of pain.
