Whenever you just let him initiate contact, secretly a guy’s going to say how can i make this woman text like I want to feel wanted too. But if you’re not going to initiate contact, better be warm with him. You better make him feel validated in person. If you initiate contact consistently then you have to be a little bit cold in person but if you let him initiate all the contact he’s giving up a lot of validation, so he’s expecting something from you and you better act right when you’re with him.
So it’s okay to chase that kind of guy. The only thing I don’t want you to do is over pursue a guy. Over pursuing is when you’re reacting to his inconsistencies with your consistencies. Any kind of inconsistency, you always react with pulling away.