Sometimes, our emotions are in conflict with reality. You can’t have everything, you have to compromise. The first thing that we can say a man wants is a compatible woman. Guys also want a woman who is dependent on them.
It almost seems that the human brain seems to know where it is in the hierarchy and so it says I’m not looking anymore so let me value other things in this person and you end up liking the person because you literally changed your value system. So it’s almost like as you get older, you begin to value internal things.