Do you want to know what’s better than sex? Strong chemistry. Even as a guy, I’d give up a woman with a fine ass to get a woman who’s decent enough but me and her have great chemistry.
Great chemistry is the ultimate equalizer. It’s the one thing that will make you overlook a lot of flaws but great chemistry is why a lot of people have fallen for relationships that were not good and that were toxic at the end of the day. Chemistry became worst than the disease. It’s a very addicting thing. There’s a very dark side behind chemistry that I want to reveal to you so you could enjoy but not let it completely take you over.
The first thing about chemistry is for the most part, it’s a one-way street a lot of the times. A lot of the times, you think you have chemistry with a guy but in reality, you’re the only one that likes him. Chemistry is very tricky. Chemistry is a one-way thing a lot of the times and that’s why you feel a strong connection with a guy but he doesn’t like you. You have a hard time keeping his interest simply because you feel the chemistry and it’s causing you to not see how he feels.
The reason why this happens is because of projections. You have these intense desires to relive the chemistry with your family or with your parents, you want to feel that warmth and sense of acceptance and so we project that upon our partners hoping that they’re gonna reciprocate.
The problem with that is that you’ll go throughout that whole relationship thinking that you guys are having a great time and thinking that he loves you as much as you love him. When you have that chemistry that’s not a two-way street, what begins to happen is that you grow very frustrated.
When you feel this kind of chemistry with a guy, you gotta find a way to remain rational. Look at your guy’s actions and focus more on it because it’ll let you know more about it than how you feel. How you feel is susceptive and how you feel could be projections of your unmet needs in the past so don’t focus on that.
The next thing about chemistry is that it causes you to miss out on red flags. Everybody will see the red flags and how toxic he is. Everybody will notice that the guy is mistreating you but because your connection is so good, you fail to notice it. That’s why when you have this chemistry with a guy or a girl, what you gotta do is to find a way to be rational. Take the opinions of your friends a little bit more seriously. Consistently ask yourself “maybe I’m wrong” and the reason why I want you to do that is because you could be wrong. Focus more on the action itself like I always tell you.
Be careful with the chemistry because when you feel it, be more alert for the signs because when you feel the chemistry, you assume that the red flags are good signs. Remain as objective as possible.
One thing I want to add is that chemistry isn’t something you create on your own. It’s either there or it’s not. Some people you’re gonna have chemistry with and some people you’re not. It’s almost like a matter of luck.
You can’t force it: you either find somebody you have chemistry with or you don’t but what you can do is to hold on to people you have chemistry with. You just have to be willing to accept the good ones and bad ones and let go of anybody who have the chemistry that’s toxic for you even if it means being alone.
There’s a lot of people who you would have chemistry with. You just have to put it yourself out there. You have to trust in your humanity that you’ll find somebody who you like and like you back and have chemistry with as long as you don’t fuck it up.
Another thing is that chemistry does not equal compatibility. At the end of the day, compatibility is more important than chemistry. Compatibility is what keep things healthy and it’s what allows you to live together, not fight together, have kids together and raise them accordingly. Compatibility makes things work and it’s all about structure.
Some of you guys are hardheaded and some of you want to make things work out of necessity. Relax. Calm the fuck down. Keep watching my channel. Just take your time. You have my channel now. You’re gonna find somebody who likes you, you don’t have to worry about that. Trust me. You gotta relax because you have these strategies now. You’re gonna find someone one way or the other. As long as you embrace your dark side and as long as you allow your dark side to come out from time to time, you will find somebody.
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