A lot of women underestimate the power of teasing men. Relationships get stale because there's no spark and proactively teasing will keep it alive.
One element of a tease is subtleness. Subtly showing boobs is hotter. The tease is what matters. The unseen is what makes you want her more. Naked girls aren’t as hot as girls who are slightly revealing.
Another thing is the withdraw, this causes them to use their imagination. Their imagination comes from sensory deprivation.
Also, entertain yourself and have good intentions and don’t let the guy know about what may happen, whether you’ll have sex or not. The feeling of not knowing is the tease. It fills his imagination.
Leave on a high note and provide anticipation.
“the power of food comes not only from its taste but from that anticipation. That anticipation is based on prior experience, learning, and memory. Something’s going to set off that anticipation, those thoughts of wanting.”
“… people who have a hard time controlling their eating, their brain circuits remain elevated and activated until all the food is gone"
Then the next time you get cued, you do it again. Every time you engage in this cycle you strengthen the neural circuits. The anticipation gets strengthened. It’s in part because of ambivalence.
Do you ever have an internal dialogue?
“Boy, that would taste great. No, I shouldn’t have it. I really want that. And I shouldn’t do it.”
That sort of ambivalence increases the reward value of the food. It increases the anxiety, it increases the arousal, it keeps it in working memory. We’re wired to focus on the most salient stimuli in our environment. For some people, it could be alcohol or illegal drugs or nicotine or sex or gambling. For many of us, it’s food.
Warning: Don’t use it as a punishment to control him… use it to give fun and excitement. Only for that. Not to get a new purse or whatnot.
It’s also great because it's the language of pleasure. It’s vague and subtle.
Another way is to withdraw sexual favor - about the tease, not revenge:
1. Physically: When you talk to him touch him near his thigh from time to time. Hug him and then push him away (physical push-pull). Playing a game where you don’t touch each other the whole day, but wear provocative clothes to make him want to stop playing. Or turn him on and then playfully stop midway and do something else.
As long as you do it with an air of playfulness and not as a way to control him or get revenge, guys usually react well to the tease
Another one is giving almost-sex and then backing off. If you send him home and you know he’s dying, send him a nude. He’ll forgive you.
Kissing him and then saying “that’s all you get” or saying no to a kiss and then randomly pushing him and kissing. Almost kiss him and pull away or almost give him head and pull him away.
2. Mentally: When the brain is used to a stimulus, the brain will create its own stimulus to satisfy itself (i.e. phantom limbs, sensory deprivation), so by intentionally giving him some space right after physically teasing him, as long as the relationship doesn't have a history of cheating and whatnot, it's good to use that time to make him think of you; to make him fantasize about you.
The brain will exaggerate reality and give you a more glorious vision of who you really are. This is how guys keep thinking of you through creating a giving him space right after teasing him. Making him wait causes him to crave you more.
Long-distance is a tease. Sending provocative pictures from time to time and making it innocent is a tease.
3. Emotionally: The tease is creating a slight bit of fear in his heart. Make him fear that you might withdraw. Make it subtle because fear is subtle. It's something that he slowly realizes but this will make him work more for you. As soon as you see him work for you, reward him.
4. Verbal: Tease him with a slight moan , a ”maybe” (uncertainty and vague), talk about sex and talk about what you love to do to guys.
Teasing gives a different side to you, keeps the playfulness of the relationship and keeps the sexuality alive. It’s all about the tease.
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